Saturday, May 17, 2008

HAPPY 24TH ANTIVERSARY FETTIT

Today is a significant day.

Twenty-four years ago today Fettit and I met and began our life together. I was a staff sergeant in the Air Force stationed at K I Sawyer Air Force Base, and newly separated from my wife, and Fettit was just finishing up his junior year at Northern Michigan University in Marquette, MI, a small college town situated on the shores of the big lake they call Gitche Gumee - Lake Superior.

We were children then - although I had children - I was not quite 23 years old and Fettit was just shy of his 21st birthday.

Our relationship has seen many incarnations in those years - from lover to friend to brother and partner. Partner, not in the typical sense, but I guess we have created an entirely new stratum.

We are lovers who lived as a couple for almost five years and then went on with our lives - others came and went but never stuck - but we continually stayed in contact, even through all of his breakups and my relocations, to reunite as friends and brothers off and on throughout the years. Today we have lived as non-sexual partners for over four years.

We live a life dedicated to each other without the customary obligations of coupling (never again). We love and are committed to each other and live our lives in a distinctively original style that society does not have a classification.

Today signifies a celebration of longevity without the societally mandated constraints and entanglements of being a committed couple.

That is why calling today our anniversary is inaccurate, and tonight while at dinner the Wiley-Conforti's coined a new term - Antiversary.

But we are a family, and my now grown children jokingly refer to Fettit as their Step Mommy on occasion(that is an entirely separate entry), and he is most assuredly one of Noelle's favorite people - she loves her Papa.

Fettit has been a member of my family since day one, included in all family celebrations and activities - well there was the unfortunate incident when my mother called him the little princess - but that was years ago - and he is embraced and acknowledged as an embedded part of our immediate tribe.

We will receive no cards or gifts for our milestone, but in my heart, and hopefully in Fettit's, there is an understanding of love and acceptance, and gratitude for the deication and perseverance, and most assuredly patience, in getting us to this point.

I have been blessed to have found someone who constantly makes me laugh, and by constant I mean endless and continuous, persistently keeps me on my toes, and who unequivocally loves my granddaughter and children, as only he can do.

Oh, and have I mentioned, he cooks like no bodies business!

Happy Antiversary Fettit - Breth-A-Whip!

11 comments:

palestar said...

hope you have many happy years together - you two are the best.

stay safe and well...

walk in peace and beauty... palestar

Susan aka MamaD said...

Happy Anniversary you two! (MamaD from rbloggers)

Susan aka MamaD said...

Happy anniversary you 2! (MamaD from rbloggers)

Anonymous said...

Kuwait a minute while I say CONGRATULATIONS! You guys have been together so long that Chris&Jim has become one word! Jim is and has been part of our family forever and everyone from our Grandparents to our Grandkids have shook their heads in disbelief at his hilariousness! Jim is "nuts" in the best sense of the word and we all love him. And the fact that he has put up with you (Chris) all these years makes him a SAINT!! Drink up! Celebrate! Redecorate something and enjoy the next 24 years!!
ISM

Gpawilli said...

Thank you Kevie

Fettit is the best (and he has no idea I wrote this post) Thank God he never learned to read!

...and we did go out and spend a fortune today redoracting the patio... wait until you see the new patio furniture.

Ya cant take it with you!!

palestar said...

thank god for a family like yous and that we are allowed to know about it - stay safe and well - here is to at least 24 more...

walk in beauty... palestar

PattyB said...

Happy antiversary!

Chris what I love the most about you.....everything!

I love how you have re-invented and re-define the rules of society.......Life is boring when everyone is doing the same thing.

:)
O's
Patty

Kim said...

Isn't love grand!

Congrats guys!

Liz1971 said...

happy antiversary, chris and fettit! congrats!

i bet i'd love him as much as i love you! xo

meli said...

How did I miss this ? Happy belated Antiversary!!! Tell him I am jealous he has had you for so long and me only a little over a yr...lol Hope you had a grand time!!! Kisses Meli

Reid said...

Congrats you two, from a complete stranger. Stumbled across your blog looking up the anorexic lady from The Onion ;-).

For what it's worth, my partner and I (we're a hetero couple) are boycotting marriage until gays get the same rights that heteros do.

Keep fighting the good fight and congratulations on 24 years!